How NOT to Turn into a Curmudgeon (or how to be a cool old person)

Have you ever noticed that there are two types of old people?

There are cranky, bitter, sour old people. The Curmudgeons. These are the ones most people dread being around.

Then there is the interesting fun to be with old people that people look at and say “That’s how I want to be when I grow up”.  They are the cool old people. Continue reading

How to find yourself without leaving home!

How to Find Yourself – Without Leaving Home

I love a story with a soul searching quest.  A great example of this is Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert.  I am a fan of both the book and the author. For a similar story with a male perspective, there is Honeymoon With My Brother by Franz Wisner. Both books were on the New York Times best seller list. Apparently, I am not the only one who enjoys these types of stories.

If you’ve never read the books they are similar in the fact that something goes horribly awry in their life, and they leave on an extensive trip to go find themselves and discover life truths.  So many interesting details to mull over.  I read and reflect and then part of me gets pissed off!

Seriously, who does that? Continue reading

Don't let them tell you can't do something

What To Do When Someone Says “You Can’t’

When someone says you can’t do something you should walk off and laugh.  And laugh some more and get determined.

When someone tells me that I can’t do something, that I will fail, I turn it into fuel.

Negative energy is a challenge to me. Continue reading

No one said delayed gratification was sexy.

Delayed Gratification: The Not-So-Sexy Key to Success

Instant gratification is sexier than delayed gratification. It’s decadent, indulgent, and it’s dopamine releasing.  That means we get a rush (cue James Brown).  Sadly, instant gratification can be a smoke screen and hurdle keeping us from the things we want the most.

Delayed gratification is by far the most reliable road to success. Yet we have become accustomed to fast and easy.  We all want the most with the least amount of effort and delayed gratification is none of that.

Let’s face it.  Delayed gratification often feels like a sacrifice.  Seriously, who doesn’t want to eat that ice cream, buy that bauble, sleep in later, avoid the hard work?  Who wants to deny themselves?  Who doesn’t want what they want when they want it?

We need to recalibrate. Continue reading

Personal Growth

The Most Important Action You Can Take For Continued Personal Growth

Success in any area of life does not come from being on auto pilot.

This holds true for relationships, business, mental health, physical health, spiritual well-being, etc.

Life is always in flux and we need to keep up with it.  Every time our circumstances change and we do not we are setting ourselves up for failure. That sounds like catastrophic language but it is true.  There is a simple antidote though and that is to continue learning.  The more we know the more tools we have to craft the life we want. Continue reading