Fall is here!
One of the great things about living in the Midwest is watching the change of seasons. Every season brings something unique and wonderful.
All that change suits someone like me that lives a serial life.
Change is inevitable. The weather changes. The seasons change. We grow older. Culture changes. Fashion changes. Technology changes. Life is always in flux.
However, there are many out there that don’t do well with change.
Yes, it can be prickly. Yes, it is not always in our control. It’s going to happen anyway.
Change isn’t inherently bad and we know it is going to happen anyways, we should embrace it and make the most out of it.
Six Reasons We Should Embrace Change
Number One: To Experience the Great Unknown
There are so many good things out there that are beyond our own vision sometimes. Things we can’t imagine or foresee. There are great moments of serendipity to be discovered:
*Many people meet the love of their life when they least expect it.
*We can’t predict when opportunity will knock on our door.
*The greatest moments of joy and happiness are rarely scripted.
*We can’t plan our best friendships.
*We can’t schedule our viewing of historical moments.
If nothing ever changed there would be so many wonderful and profound moments we would miss. We might even miss a whole path of our lives if nothing ever changed.The greatest moments of joy and happiness are rarely scripted. Click To Tweet
Number Two: To Learn
Change stretches us. We learn new things and our brains make new connections. This is good news. Learning has been shown to help cognitive skills in senior citizens and may even help stave off Alzheimer’s disease. Now, if you are reading that as a 20-year-old you may think it isn’t relatable but remember, growing older is a guaranteed change in your life and someday that information will be relevant to you.
Every situation we experience is an experience we can learn from and add to the already vast biological library in our brain.
That information can be transformed into information on how to behave in relationships, how to make the next smart financial move or even add to a problem-solving arsenal.
Number Three: To Grow
We have already established that growing older isn’t an option. If you are a healthy rational person it is reasonable to assume that you would want to mature as well. I’m talking about the maturity that comes from realizing you are not the center of the world.
Getting older usually means that you’ve experienced life along the way. When we internalize that experience we can become more empathetic, more aware, more conscious of those who are not like us.
It also gives us the ability to predict the consequences of our actions. That alone will help protect us from certain undesired changes in the future.
Number Four: To Cultivate Patience and Perseverance
We don’t always get what we want when we want it. Change teaches us to be more patient and/or to persevere. So we wait or we work harder or we do both.
Number Five: To Gain Confidence
Once you have lived through a change you know you can make it through the next one. This builds your self-confidence. Self-confidence will not only get you through changes but also equip you to take healthy risks.
Number Six: To Stave Off Boredom
Boredom, in this case, does not refer to a couple of hours of unplanned time. This refers to the boredom you might feel in marriage, at your job, or amongst your friends. The dangerous kind of boredom that leads to bitterness and lack of fulfillment. These sort of scenarios require active steps for a positive change.
Six Steps to Accept Change
Number One: Acknowledge it
Something’s happened, change is here, the worst thing you can do is stick your head in the sand. We must acknowledge it. Wishing and hoping it will go away has never had proven results. Once we have acknowledged that something has changed, we can focus on what that means to us and what solutions are available.
Number Two: Contemplate
Take the time to really think through your new reality. You may not get all the answers right away but you can think the situation through thoroughly enough to start framing a doable solution.
Number Three: Make Decisions- Own It
If the change is happening anyway, you may as well make the best out of it by making decisions you can control. As the saying goes, “Not making a decision is still making a decision”. It is in your interest to be proactive. The only thing worse than not making a decision is letting someone else make it for you.
Decision making can be very hard, especially if you are under the gun. Most of us tend to worry if we are making a good one. It is still a lot easier living with our self-created consequences than living with someone else’s.
Number Four: Find Support
Many changes we can navigate on our own. Some require help. It can be hard to sometimes ask for that help. The amazing thing is that, if we look around, there are usually people who want to help. However, you need to ask for it. Others might not realize we need help or unsure what it is they can do for you. However, the worst thing anyone can do is say “no”. Work up at least enough courage to ask the question.
Easier Said Than Done
Change is a lot harder than it looks sometimes, even for those of us who aren’t frightened by it. Sticking with it and seeing it through, however, is easier than pretending it isn’t there and living with bungle after bungle.
Be sure to work with your own personality and ways of doing things. Ironically, I deal well with large changes better than small ones. I am great with going to the next grandiose plan. I am not good when someone tries to mess with my calendar by being late or canceling or putting additional things on my plate. I know I have to be careful of my reaction when that happens and keep trying until I get it right.
And because things keep changing, you get to keep trying, too!
Do you have any tips on embracing change?