Category Archives: Change

How NOT to Turn into a Curmudgeon (or how to be a cool old person)

Have you ever noticed that there are two types of old people?

There are cranky, bitter, sour old people. The Curmudgeons. These are the ones most people dread being around.

Then there is the interesting fun to be with old people that people look at and say “That’s how I want to be when I grow up”.  They are the cool old people. Continue reading

How to find yourself without leaving home!

How to Find Yourself – Without Leaving Home

I love a story with a soul searching quest.  A great example of this is Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert.  I am a fan of both the book and the author. For a similar story with a male perspective, there is Honeymoon With My Brother by Franz Wisner. Both books were on the New York Times best seller list. Apparently, I am not the only one who enjoys these types of stories.

If you’ve never read the books they are similar in the fact that something goes horribly awry in their life, and they leave on an extensive trip to go find themselves and discover life truths.  So many interesting details to mull over.  I read and reflect and then part of me gets pissed off!

Seriously, who does that? Continue reading

Don't let them tell you can't do something

What To Do When Someone Says “You Can’t’

When someone says you can’t do something you should walk off and laugh.  And laugh some more and get determined.

When someone tells me that I can’t do something, that I will fail, I turn it into fuel.

Negative energy is a challenge to me. Continue reading

Five Things You Can Do When Change Snowballs

Five Things You Can Do When Change Snowballs

 

Have you ever decided to clean out a closet or a room and you start and all of a sudden it looks way worse than the mess you were trying to remedy?

It happens to me all the time.  Sometimes knowing this makes me even reluctant to start.  Once I do start it can even be a bit daunting.

Then I realized that this happens when I make changes, too. Continue reading

Questions to ask yourself

Questions to Ask Yourself When Contemplating a Major Life Change

 

Sometimes we feel we need to make a change.  How can you tell if you just need to color your hair, try something new, or make a drastic change?

No one can really answer that question but you. Sometimes a small change can garner large results. However, if there is even a remote possibility that you could/should/want/have to make a huge transformation then you should make sure you explore it thoroughly. Continue reading

An Alternative to The New Year Resolution

Now is the accepted time to make your annual good resolutions.  Next week you can begin paving hell with them as usual.    – Mark Twain

I have never been a fan of the New Year’s resolutions.

They seem like societal peer pressure.  We do it because all the cool kids are doing it.  And 88% fail anyway.  While that is a statistic that means nothing unless it’s about your resolutions, who wants to start a brand new year with the overwhelming odds of failure.  It’s kind of sadistic.

What I am a fan of is new beginnings. Continue reading

Can Self-Acceptance Be an Excuse?

I am very happy to see more people talking about acceptance, of themselves and each other…  More people talking about being their authentic selves….  More people discussing the concept of not judging a book by its cover.  I think it is a wonderful thing to embrace our differences and to not force people into one little tiny mold.

However, I also believe there is sometimes a dangerous side effect to all that.  It offers up easy excuses. Continue reading

How to Get Unstuck with Baby Steps

I was walking down the street and happened to see a man sitting on his porch. Next to the man was his dog, who was and whimpering. I asked the man “What’s wrong with your dog?” The man said “He’s laying on a nail”. I asked “Laying on a nail?, Well why doesn’t he get up?” The man then replied “It’s not hurting bad enough.”

I believe that story is by Les Brown and many motivational speakers have used it since.  It keeps getting recycled because it is so true.  Change is hard. Sometimes it takes more motivation than you think. Sometimes it is easier to stay with the devil you know instead of leaving with the devil you don’t.  What many people miss in that story is that the dog doesn’t need to do anything dramatic to change or to alleviate his discomfort.  He just has to get up.  That’s it.  He doesn’t have to go find a new dog house, he doesn’t have to find a new owner, he doesn’t even have to find a new porch, he just has to get up! Continue reading