The office, church, friends, even your own family…no one is immune.
We often associate gossip as negative. If we are going to be politically correct, we would say that gossip is frowned upon. However, even social scientists are finding that it has some benefits to society. A Stanford study determined that gossip can actually deter selfishness and encourage cooperation. Who knew?
While these benefits are interesting news no one wants to be the topic of such gossip. Gossip has bad connotations. Gossip gone too far can turn into bullying and become a detriment to any environment. Gossip has a huge ICK factor.
However, there is a way to turn gossip upside down.
[I’ve discussed this topic before but it keeps popping up everywhere in conversation so I am addressing it again and expanding some different aspects of i.t]
People are looking for purpose in their lives. I hear many of them say that they wish to make a difference in the world. Many times they say it as if they can’t. Or that whatever they do has to be of epic proportions. Or as if it is something they aren’t ready for just quite yet.
Chances are if everyone took a look at who made a difference in their life, or looked at the people around them, those that have done the most good are not the people who are labeled heroes. They aren’t famous. They aren’t considered the movers and the shakers. They’re just an average Jane or Joe living their life and treating others as if they matter.Continue reading →
Being generous is the natural side effect of living a happy and fulfilled life. It is also the antidote for when we feel lost or blue. It can take our focus off ourselves and make us pay attention to the world around us. It serves both us and the receivers of our generosity. It is empowering.
Many times people equate giving with cash. If you have the means, then go ahead and share but what if you don’t? While monetary philanthropy is important, it is a narrow way to be generous. There are many other ways to share with others.
High school seniors all over the country are relieved. And rejoicing. And celebrating. We will join in the merriment. Then there will be those among us who will, without malice or awareness, put a damper on it. Simply with the words that come out of their mouths.
Everyone should think carefully before they speak.
You can’t go a day without reading or hearing what “the problem with millennials” is. We need to stop that. Isn’t that just a version of “kids these days”? The same centuries old tired lament? Doesn’t that mean we are just old farts who have passed the buck and we haven’t figured out how to build a bridge with the next generation? And by ‘we’ I mean the Prequels- the Prequels to the Millennials being mainly Baby Boomers and Generation X (and yes, a word I have twisted for my own purposes). Continue reading →
Everyone likes to be acknowledged. Everyone likes to be appreciated.
In the season of giving we have many opportunities to say thank you, not just for gifts but for generous gestures as well. We need to make sure that we thank people like we really mean it. We may not be good at it but that is when we need to require a little more from ourselves . We can learn, we can get better, we can practice. Practice makes perfect, right?
We’ve been sold a myth that somehow we can find a balance, a perfect equilibrium, in our lives. Sometimes we are even shamed for not having found that sweet spot.
Balance implies that we have some scale and on each side are equal parts of a whole. Or that different portions of our lives are divided up and pitted against each other. Usually it is not possible, or even valuable, to compartmentalize our lives because all if it is woven together into whole cloth.