Category Archives: Encouragement

Lessons from a near death experience

What I Learned From a Near Death Experience

Back in March, I had what I would call a near death experience.

I think I can call it a near death experience even though I didn’t hover over my own body, my heart didn’t stop, and there was no white light or anyone from the other side.

I actually remember almost none of it and am going on the stories that were relayed to me.  There was a life flight, a chest tube, and the card on the flowers that my daughter gave me that said, “Mom, thanks for not dying!” All this evidence points me to the conclusion that it was, indeed, a near death experience. Continue reading

Don't let them tell you can't do something

What To Do When Someone Says “You Can’t’

When someone says you can’t do something you should walk off and laugh.  And laugh some more and get determined.

When someone tells me that I can’t do something, that I will fail, I turn it into fuel.

Negative energy is a challenge to me. Continue reading

Five Things You Can Do When Change Snowballs

Five Things You Can Do When Change Snowballs

 

Have you ever decided to clean out a closet or a room and you start and all of a sudden it looks way worse than the mess you were trying to remedy?

It happens to me all the time.  Sometimes knowing this makes me even reluctant to start.  Once I do start it can even be a bit daunting.

Then I realized that this happens when I make changes, too. Continue reading

The Art of Noticing

Have you ever thought long and hard about Happiness, and Joy, and Contentment?  How to orchestrate more of it in your life?  How to create that big ***BANG*** of Jubilation right over your head?

There is information everywhere…Books, blogs, vlogs, pod casts, talk shows…on how to attempt this.  It was in a quiet conversation with a friend that I realized it didn’t come to me in that big way.  It came to me in little tiny bits. Sometimes so tiny they might go unnoticed if I wasn’t paying attention. Rarely do I get it from a grand event with lightning strikes or trumpets or fireworks. I am not the only one.  Have you ever observed that people who are happy in general delight in small and modest things? Continue reading

Celebrate Other’s Success and Defeat the Green Monster

Have you ever achieved something you worked incredibly hard for or had an incredible opportunity put in your path and you get all excited and you look around and no one else is getting excited with you?  Or worse yet the haters show up…or lurk behind your back? I think this happens to most people at least every once in a while.

It’s very deflating. It is important to cheer ourselves on (link) and try to find a better support system.  But it is a great opportunity to look at our own reactions.  How do WE react to someone else’s good fortune? Continue reading

Can Self-Acceptance Be an Excuse?

I am very happy to see more people talking about acceptance, of themselves and each other…  More people talking about being their authentic selves….  More people discussing the concept of not judging a book by its cover.  I think it is a wonderful thing to embrace our differences and to not force people into one little tiny mold.

However, I also believe there is sometimes a dangerous side effect to all that.  It offers up easy excuses. Continue reading

How to Fight Frustration (by celebrating small victories)

There is a lot of work that goes in to reaching a goal or accomplishing something.  Very rarely do things go according to plan A or hit success on the exact date we schedule (or maybe that’s just me).  Sometimes we have to use an extraordinary amount of discipline and delayed gratification in order to get what we envision for ourselves.  This can lead to a boat load of frustration. Continue reading

Is a Successful Marriage Really Hard Work?

I don’t think so.

Whenever I hear a discussion on marriage everyone talks about the hard work it takes to make it successful.  I contend that it is not hard; it is merely inconvenient.

[Disclaimer #1:  When I say that marriage is not hard I am not including those marriages that include abuse, addiction, or fraud.  Those are very hard and I don’t want to minimize that.  I am talking about the average Joe and Sally (in as much as there can be such thing). Disclaimer #2: I am also assuming both parties desire a successful marriage and are participating as such.] Continue reading