Category Archives: Family

How to spot romance that isn't dressed like romance

How to Spot Romance That Doesn’t Dress Like Romance

Everyone can spot a huge romantic gesture. It has bells, whistles, applause. It is almost like a theatre show. It looks like a tux or a party dress.

Not everyone sees the small, even tiny, romantic acts and expressions that can total up to be far more important than those big gestures. It presents itself looking more like work boots and a bad hair day. Sometimes we have to train ourselves to notice these things.  Continue reading

Say Thank You Like You Mean It

Everyone likes to be acknowledged.  Everyone likes to be appreciated.

In the season of giving we have many opportunities to say thank you, not just for gifts but for generous gestures as well.  We need to make sure that we thank people like we really mean it.  We may not be good at it but that is when we need to require a little more from ourselves .  We can learn, we can get better, we can practice.  Practice makes perfect, right?

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The Importance of Family Traditions

Many times when we are living a serial life we are looking at how to change and evolve and improve.  With all of that going on there are significant benefits to family traditions.

Tradition (truh-dish-uh-n)- noun

  1. The handing down of statements, beliefs, legends, customs, information, etc., from generation to generation, especially by word of mouth or by practice.
  2. Something that is handed down.
  3. A long established or inherited way of thinking.
  4. A continuing pattern of cultural beliefs or patterns.

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Gift Giving: It’s The Thought That Counts! (well…umm…maybe)

We’ve all heard it before, especially at this time of the year.  When it comes to gifts, it’s the thought that counts.  But is that true?

Maybe.

We’ve all gotten that gift at some point where we open it and think “What the…?”

It’s the thought that counts if there is indeed thought- a good intention- behind it and if we have the ability to recognize the thought.  It comes from both sides.  Are we honestly putting thought into our gift giving? Are we accepting gifts with the intention in mind? Continue reading

Random Acts of Kindness Start at Home

We are about to embark on the season of charity.

We are compelled to feed the hungry and help the needy.  Rightly so.  To those of us who have been blessed it is only right to pass it on.  There will be extraordinary acts of kindness and giving reported everywhere. We may even be a recipient of a free coffee  in the drive through line by someone who generously started a random act of kindness.

It is fabulous to witness it all when we live in a world where there is so much ugliness brought to life on a regular basis.

However, the holidays can be stressful for even the most die hard festive reveler.  Unfortunately most of us unleash the side effects of this stress on the ones we love the most. Continue reading

Day of the Dead: Celebrating My Feminine Heritage

Tomorrow is Day of the Dead.

While it is not part of my culture, I find myself wishing that it was.

If you are unfamiliar with it, Day of the Dead  is celebrated in many Hispanic cultures to honor the ancestors who have gone before them.  In Mexican culture there are beautiful colorful graphics with ‘sugar skulls’.  The dead are celebrated with flowers, their favorite foods (sometimes even picnicking in the cemeteries), and reminiscing. Many outside of the Hispanic culture sometimes find it a little morose or macabre but it is the exact opposite. It is the celebration of the lives of those that were loved while they were here. Continue reading

Is a Successful Marriage Really Hard Work?

I don’t think so.

Whenever I hear a discussion on marriage everyone talks about the hard work it takes to make it successful.  I contend that it is not hard; it is merely inconvenient.

[Disclaimer #1:  When I say that marriage is not hard I am not including those marriages that include abuse, addiction, or fraud.  Those are very hard and I don’t want to minimize that.  I am talking about the average Joe and Sally (in as much as there can be such thing). Disclaimer #2: I am also assuming both parties desire a successful marriage and are participating as such.] Continue reading

The Myth of Balance

We’ve been sold a myth that somehow we can find a balance, a perfect equilibrium, in our lives.  Sometimes we are even shamed for not having found that sweet spot.

Balance implies that we have some scale and on each side are equal parts of a whole.  Or that different portions of our lives are divided up and pitted against each other.  Usually it is not possible, or even valuable, to compartmentalize our lives because all if it is woven together into whole cloth.

Needs ebb and flow.  Life changes regularly.

Work/Life Balance

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The Importance of Inconveniencing Yourself

Have you ever heard of a billionaire who built their business when they got ‘around to it’?  An epic love story that was ‘fit into a schedule’? A good parent who ignores a child because they have something more interesting to do?  How about being able to keep a job when you only go into work fully rested and motivated to work?

Convenience is a great quality when it comes to shopping, banking, doctor appointments, and your commute to work.  It is absolutely counter productive as a component in making life decisions.  Nothing great is ever created without inconveniencing yourself. Continue reading