Category Archives: Family

Three Steps to Writing a Eulogy

 

This week I had the unfortunate circumstances that required I write a eulogy for my father.  I actually volunteered and even though it was something I wanted to do, it was hard and wrenching. It was also cathartic and healing.

Then once I wrote it I had to deliver it. That was no less wrenching or cathartic than writing it.

I thought it might be a good idea to share how I actually got it done without having a nervous breakdown.  Maybe this advice could help someone in the future. Continue reading

50 ways to be generous without spending money

Fifty Ways to be Generous Without Spending Money

 

Being generous is the natural side effect of living a happy and fulfilled life.  It is also the antidote for when we feel lost or blue.  It can take our focus off ourselves and make us pay attention to the world around us. It serves both us and the receivers of our generosity. It is empowering.

Many times people equate giving with cash. If you have the means, then go ahead and share but what if you don’t?  While monetary philanthropy is important, it is a narrow way to be generous.  There are many other ways to share with others.

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Lessons from a near death experience

What I Learned From a Near Death Experience

Back in March, I had what I would call a near death experience.

I think I can call it a near death experience even though I didn’t hover over my own body, my heart didn’t stop, and there was no white light or anyone from the other side.

I actually remember almost none of it and am going on the stories that were relayed to me.  There was a life flight, a chest tube, and the card on the flowers that my daughter gave me that said, “Mom, thanks for not dying!” All this evidence points me to the conclusion that it was, indeed, a near death experience. Continue reading

What Not to Say to Graduating Seniors

What NOT to Say to Graduating Seniors

It’s that time!

High school seniors all over the country are relieved.  And rejoicing.  And celebrating. We will join in the merriment.  Then there will be those among us who will, without malice or awareness, put a damper on it. Simply with the words that come out of their mouths.

Everyone should think carefully before they speak.

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How NOT to Turn into a Curmudgeon (or how to be a cool old person)

Have you ever noticed that there are two types of old people?

There are cranky, bitter, sour old people. The Curmudgeons. These are the ones most people dread being around.

Then there is the interesting fun to be with old people that people look at and say “That’s how I want to be when I grow up”.  They are the cool old people. Continue reading

No one said delayed gratification was sexy.

Delayed Gratification: The Not-So-Sexy Key to Success

Instant gratification is sexier than delayed gratification. It’s decadent, indulgent, and it’s dopamine releasing.  That means we get a rush (cue James Brown).  Sadly, instant gratification can be a smoke screen and hurdle keeping us from the things we want the most.

Delayed gratification is by far the most reliable road to success. Yet we have become accustomed to fast and easy.  We all want the most with the least amount of effort and delayed gratification is none of that.

Let’s face it.  Delayed gratification often feels like a sacrifice.  Seriously, who doesn’t want to eat that ice cream, buy that bauble, sleep in later, avoid the hard work?  Who wants to deny themselves?  Who doesn’t want what they want when they want it?

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How to spot romance that isn't dressed like romance

How to Spot Romance That Doesn’t Dress Like Romance

Everyone can spot a huge romantic gesture. It has bells, whistles, applause. It is almost like a theatre show. It looks like a tux or a party dress.

Not everyone sees the small, even tiny, romantic acts and expressions that can total up to be far more important than those big gestures. It presents itself looking more like work boots and a bad hair day. Sometimes we have to train ourselves to notice these things.  Continue reading

Say Thank You Like You Mean It

Everyone likes to be acknowledged.  Everyone likes to be appreciated.

In the season of giving we have many opportunities to say thank you, not just for gifts but for generous gestures as well.  We need to make sure that we thank people like we really mean it.  We may not be good at it but that is when we need to require a little more from ourselves .  We can learn, we can get better, we can practice.  Practice makes perfect, right?

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The Importance of Family Traditions

Many times when we are living a serial life we are looking at how to change and evolve and improve.  With all of that going on there are significant benefits to family traditions.

Tradition (truh-dish-uh-n)- noun

  1. The handing down of statements, beliefs, legends, customs, information, etc., from generation to generation, especially by word of mouth or by practice.
  2. Something that is handed down.
  3. A long established or inherited way of thinking.
  4. A continuing pattern of cultural beliefs or patterns.

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Gift Giving: It’s The Thought That Counts! (well…umm…maybe)

We’ve all heard it before, especially at this time of the year.  When it comes to gifts, it’s the thought that counts.  But is that true?

Maybe.

We’ve all gotten that gift at some point where we open it and think “What the…?”

It’s the thought that counts if there is indeed thought- a good intention- behind it and if we have the ability to recognize the thought.  It comes from both sides.  Are we honestly putting thought into our gift giving? Are we accepting gifts with the intention in mind? Continue reading