Category Archives: Happiness

When will you be successful?

When Are You Successful Enough?

 

What is success?

I did a very scientific poll (facebook, twitter, email, phone calls) and asked people for their definition of success.  Most of the answers were different phrasings on one of my favorite quotes and what I use to define success:

“Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it. “- Maya Angelou

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50 ways to be generous without spending money

Fifty Ways to be Generous Without Spending Money

 

Being generous is the natural side effect of living a happy and fulfilled life.  It is also the antidote for when we feel lost or blue.  It can take our focus off ourselves and make us pay attention to the world around us. It serves both us and the receivers of our generosity. It is empowering.

Many times people equate giving with cash. If you have the means, then go ahead and share but what if you don’t?  While monetary philanthropy is important, it is a narrow way to be generous.  There are many other ways to share with others.

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How NOT to Turn into a Curmudgeon (or how to be a cool old person)

Have you ever noticed that there are two types of old people?

There are cranky, bitter, sour old people. The Curmudgeons. These are the ones most people dread being around.

Then there is the interesting fun to be with old people that people look at and say “That’s how I want to be when I grow up”.  They are the cool old people. Continue reading

No one said delayed gratification was sexy.

Delayed Gratification: The Not-So-Sexy Key to Success

Instant gratification is sexier than delayed gratification. It’s decadent, indulgent, and it’s dopamine releasing.  That means we get a rush (cue James Brown).  Sadly, instant gratification can be a smoke screen and hurdle keeping us from the things we want the most.

Delayed gratification is by far the most reliable road to success. Yet we have become accustomed to fast and easy.  We all want the most with the least amount of effort and delayed gratification is none of that.

Let’s face it.  Delayed gratification often feels like a sacrifice.  Seriously, who doesn’t want to eat that ice cream, buy that bauble, sleep in later, avoid the hard work?  Who wants to deny themselves?  Who doesn’t want what they want when they want it?

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How to spot romance that isn't dressed like romance

How to Spot Romance That Doesn’t Dress Like Romance

Everyone can spot a huge romantic gesture. It has bells, whistles, applause. It is almost like a theatre show. It looks like a tux or a party dress.

Not everyone sees the small, even tiny, romantic acts and expressions that can total up to be far more important than those big gestures. It presents itself looking more like work boots and a bad hair day. Sometimes we have to train ourselves to notice these things.  Continue reading

The Art of Noticing

Have you ever thought long and hard about Happiness, and Joy, and Contentment?  How to orchestrate more of it in your life?  How to create that big ***BANG*** of Jubilation right over your head?

There is information everywhere…Books, blogs, vlogs, pod casts, talk shows…on how to attempt this.  It was in a quiet conversation with a friend that I realized it didn’t come to me in that big way.  It came to me in little tiny bits. Sometimes so tiny they might go unnoticed if I wasn’t paying attention. Rarely do I get it from a grand event with lightning strikes or trumpets or fireworks. I am not the only one.  Have you ever observed that people who are happy in general delight in small and modest things? Continue reading