Have you ever decided to clean out a closet or a room and you start and all of a sudden it looks way worse than the mess you were trying to remedy?
It happens to me all the time. Sometimes knowing this makes me even reluctant to start. Once I do start it can even be a bit daunting.
Then I realized that this happens when I make changes, too. Continue reading
“You can be whatever you want to be” say well meaning people everywhere.
“BS!” says me.
Parents tell us this, teachers tell us this, society tells us this, optimists tell us this. All in hopes that we will push ourselves to work hard for what we want, be pioneers, and break glass ceilings. All of those things are very good things. Ingraining this in our brains will help us grow up either with ambition or entitlement. Either way it will slowly dawn on us that this is a lie. Sometimes work and determination just can’t get us there. Continue reading
There is loads of advice out there on productivity.
Does it work? YES!
Every time? For everyone? NO!
Everyone wants to make the best use of their time. No one wants to spend their time on things that don’t really matter. That is why we go looking for solutions but even a solution that works for many people may not work for us. And it may even work for us for a time but not forever. Why is that? Continue reading
Most people want to help. It’s almost universal. Millenials want to “make an impact”. Gen Xers want to “make a difference”. Baby Boomers and the Greatest Generation want to “be of value”.
Sure, there are those out there who only care about themselves and their own needs and their own feelings. I don’t have any statistics on this but from my own observations I would guess that this is a tiny percentage. Most people love someone besides themselves. So let’s leave the diehard self-centered out of the equation and look at the remainder.
Many people want to help but might not know how. Or they refrain because they may think that their contributions are insignificant. They may feel that they need to have more or be more before they can make an impact. They may see a problem in the world at large and don’t know how they can possibly help make it better.
I am a proponent of “bloom where you are planted”. Continue reading
Have you ever thought long and hard about Happiness, and Joy, and Contentment? How to orchestrate more of it in your life? How to create that big ***BANG*** of Jubilation right over your head?
There is information everywhere…Books, blogs, vlogs, pod casts, talk shows…on how to attempt this. It was in a quiet conversation with a friend that I realized it didn’t come to me in that big way. It came to me in little tiny bits. Sometimes so tiny they might go unnoticed if I wasn’t paying attention. Rarely do I get it from a grand event with lightning strikes or trumpets or fireworks. I am not the only one. Have you ever observed that people who are happy in general delight in small and modest things? Continue reading
Sometimes age discrimination is piled on our heads by others and sometimes we heap it upon ourselves. Continue reading
We are in the midst of the holiday bustle and whether you enjoy it or you don’t- chances are it’s getting a little chaotic and stressful.
Most of us let out a sigh of relief when it is over. We must beware of the aftershocks…cleaning up the decorations (those lights don’t put themselves away), the party food hangover (carb overload, Aunt Sadie’s Shrimp and Pineapple Fluff, 100 year old fruit cake) and the general cloud of fog that can settle in your brain (huh?).
So how do we protect ourselves and prepare ourselves for the new year? Continue reading
There is a lot of work that goes in to reaching a goal or accomplishing something. Very rarely do things go according to plan A or hit success on the exact date we schedule (or maybe that’s just me). Sometimes we have to use an extraordinary amount of discipline and delayed gratification in order to get what we envision for ourselves. This can lead to a boat load of frustration. Continue reading
“What do you want to do?” is a ubiquitous question. How about asking, “What don’t you want?”
At almost every stage of life you will hear a familiar lament from someone you know, “I am not sure what I want”. This starts very early when bored children are trying to find something to do. They have no idea what they want but when mom and dad start making suggestions they can easily identify what they don’t want to do. This continues throughout our lives, the subject matter just changes.
But we can use it to our advantage. Continue reading