There is nothing more exciting to me than a brand new spiral notebook. It is just so beautiful. So pristine. So ready for the possibilities. It is a clean slate. I love it because I can do whatever I want. It could be a to-do list, a journal, a sketchbook, or I can fill it with notes about any subject I want. What is there not to like about that?
Many times a clean slate is harder to come by than a new notebook: Moving, ending relationships, starting new jobs, apologizing. However, we get that magic time that our cultural tradition gives us every year…New Years!Continue reading →
As an adult it is my holiday must see every year. I own the disc. I schedule a viewing on my calendar so that it doesn’t get lost in the holiday shuffle.
I am eternally grateful to Frank Capra for bringing Philip Van Doren Stern’s story to life. It can seem like a simple movie but if you watch it enough (ahem…about 30 plus times like me) there are a whole lot of layers, a whole lot of metaphors, and a bunch of life lessons.Continue reading →
Gratitude is touted as a key to happiness. I absolutely unequivocally believe that it is true. But how do you find gratitude when life is off the rails, when it seems like you are taking one step forward and two steps back, or when it feels like there is a grand conspiracy against you? Life has a way of doing that to us sometimes.
In the wreckage, there is always at least some tiny grain of thankfulness. If we can find the little tiny grains and store them up for ourselves, before long we have a bushel basket. The more we have to be grateful for the less imposing our problems look.Continue reading →
Instant gratification is sexier than delayed gratification. It’s decadent, indulgent, and it’s dopamine releasing. That means we get a rush (cue James Brown). Sadly, instant gratification can be a smoke screen and hurdle keeping us from the things we want the most.
Delayed gratification is by far the most reliable road to success. Yet we have become accustomed to fast and easy. We all want the most with the least amount of effort and delayed gratification is none of that.
Let’s face it. Delayed gratification often feels like a sacrifice. Seriously, who doesn’t want to eat that ice cream, buy that bauble, sleep in later, avoid the hard work? Who wants to deny themselves? Who doesn’t want what they want when they want it?
“You can be whatever you want to be” say well meaning people everywhere.
“BS!” says me.
Parents tell us this, teachers tell us this, society tells us this, optimists tell us this. All in hopes that we will push ourselves to work hard for what we want, be pioneers, and break glass ceilings. All of those things are very good things. Ingraining this in our brains will help us grow up either with ambition or entitlement. Either way it will slowly dawn on us that this is a lie. Sometimes work and determination just can’t get us there.Continue reading →
There is loads of advice out there on productivity.
Does it work? YES!
Every time? For everyone? NO!
Everyone wants to make the best use of their time. No one wants to spend their time on things that don’t really matter. That is why we go looking for solutions but even a solution that works for many people may not work for us. And it may even work for us for a time but not forever. Why is that?Continue reading →