Back in December, I posted a little something about how to do nothing. I wanted to encourage everyone to take a little mental health day after the holidays. After all the chaos from Thanksgiving til New Years, we need to unwind.
Well, here we are past the half way mark of 2017. I am realizing that I, along with many of the people I know and love, once again need to schedule a Do Nothing Day. We have longer days and we are trying to fill them with as much living as we can. What we call relaxation looks remarkably similar to cramming things into our calendar because we are afraid of missing out. Continue reading
Philanthropy does not need to be boring. It can be fun.
I know what you’re thinking. A rubbery chicken dinner and a basket raffle do not usually a good time make (unless you win the basket and it is full of stuff you really like and would not have purchased for yourself anyway, then all of a sudden it’s a lot more enjoyable).
Would you like to give back and have a little bit of fun along the way? Would you like to complete the summer having done something a little more epic and make the world a better place at the same time? How about a chance to go on an all-expense paid vacation to somewhere like Hawaii?
I have just the thing. Continue reading
We regularly have opportunities in our life that show up unplanned.
The best things in my life came as a surprise to me. My husband, three of my career tracks, some of the friends I have, and some really cool experiences I had never had even thought to want all appeared when I least expected it.
The irony here is that, in general, I don’t like surprises. I like my goals set, and life well planned and documented in my calendar in advance. As most people who have made it to adulthood know, the universe laughed at this! I have been thrown a lot of surprises, both good and bad. The bad helped me find strength and perseverance but the good has brought me so much happiness. Continue reading
Stop waiting for Joy. Stop waiting for Happiness.
Quit saying, “I’ll be happy when…” or “Things will be good if…”
Stop trying to choreograph it with grand gestures.
All of that just wastes so much of our natural happiness resources! Every time we do that kind of thing we are ignoring the very things, moments, events that we could be reveling in now. And that is sad.
Instead of Waiting…
What is success?
I did a very scientific poll (facebook, twitter, email, phone calls) and asked people for their definition of success. Most of the answers were different phrasings on one of my favorite quotes and what I use to define success:
“Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it. “- Maya Angelou
Being generous is the natural side effect of living a happy and fulfilled life. It is also the antidote for when we feel lost or blue. It can take our focus off ourselves and make us pay attention to the world around us. It serves both us and the receivers of our generosity. It is empowering.
Many times people equate giving with cash. If you have the means, then go ahead and share but what if you don’t? While monetary philanthropy is important, it is a narrow way to be generous. There are many other ways to share with others.
Have you ever seen that couple who is still bickering and fighting over the same issues year after year? They swear they love each other but you keep wondering how they even like each other. Why haven’t they moved on to bigger, better, and more peaceful things? Chances are they each are making demands but no one is really negotiating a better way.
The word negotiate is probably the least romantic word in the dictionary. It doesn’t usually pop up in conversation when you are talking infatuation and love in your life. Surprisingly, it is the best way to navigate this sort of relationship. Everyone does it to some extent or another. The better you are at it, the better your relationship becomes. Negotiation is just a means of achieving a solution that leaves each party getting the most out of a situation.
Have you ever wanted to break your bad habits or create new ones?
It’s usually easier said than done.
Jerry Seinfeld has been credited in popularizing the technique of habit tracking. He has been reported giving the advice that this is the technique he used when he was an up and comer. He simply put a red X on his calendar every day that he did some writing so that he formed a chain. He didn’t want to break the chain so he continued and then it was a habit.
Peer pressure is usually talked about as if it were just a children’s issue, teenagers in particular.
Peer pressure, or social pressure, or any other name that you give to it, never really leaves us, it just looks different sometimes. Continue reading