I did a very scientific poll (facebook, twitter, email, phone calls) and asked people for their definition of success. Most of the answers were different phrasings on one of my favorite quotes and what I use to define success:
“Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it. “- Maya Angelou
Instant gratification is sexier than delayed gratification. It’s decadent, indulgent, and it’s dopamine releasing. That means we get a rush (cue James Brown). Sadly, instant gratification can be a smoke screen and hurdle keeping us from the things we want the most.
Delayed gratification is by far the most reliable road to success. Yet we have become accustomed to fast and easy. We all want the most with the least amount of effort and delayed gratification is none of that.
Let’s face it. Delayed gratification often feels like a sacrifice. Seriously, who doesn’t want to eat that ice cream, buy that bauble, sleep in later, avoid the hard work? Who wants to deny themselves? Who doesn’t want what they want when they want it?
There is loads of advice out there on productivity.
Does it work? YES!
Every time? For everyone? NO!
Everyone wants to make the best use of their time. No one wants to spend their time on things that don’t really matter. That is why we go looking for solutions but even a solution that works for many people may not work for us. And it may even work for us for a time but not forever. Why is that?Continue reading →
We’ve been sold a myth that somehow we can find a balance, a perfect equilibrium, in our lives. Sometimes we are even shamed for not having found that sweet spot.
Balance implies that we have some scale and on each side are equal parts of a whole. Or that different portions of our lives are divided up and pitted against each other. Usually it is not possible, or even valuable, to compartmentalize our lives because all if it is woven together into whole cloth.