How to take advantage of serendipity

Learn to Embrace the Gift of Serendipity

We regularly have opportunities in our life that show up unplanned.

The best things in my life came as a surprise to me.  My husband, three of my career tracks, some of the friends I have, and some really cool experiences I had never had even thought to want all appeared when I least expected it.

The irony here is that, in general, I don’t like surprises.  I like my goals set, and life well planned and documented in my calendar in advance. As most people who have made it to adulthood know, the universe laughed at this!   I have been thrown a lot of surprises, both good and bad.  The bad helped me find strength and perseverance but the good has brought me so much happiness. Continue reading

Happiness, Joy, Contentment: Now, not later.

Stop Waiting for Joy and Happiness!

Stop waiting for Joy.  Stop waiting for Happiness.

Quit saying, “I’ll be happy when…” or “Things will be good if…”

Stop trying to choreograph it with grand gestures.

All of that just wastes so much of our natural happiness resources! Every time we do that kind of thing we are ignoring the very things, moments, events that we could be reveling in now. And that is sad.

Instead of Waiting…

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When will you be successful?

When Are You Successful Enough?

 

What is success?

I did a very scientific poll (facebook, twitter, email, phone calls) and asked people for their definition of success.  Most of the answers were different phrasings on one of my favorite quotes and what I use to define success:

“Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it. “- Maya Angelou

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50 ways to be generous without spending money

Fifty Ways to be Generous Without Spending Money

 

Being generous is the natural side effect of living a happy and fulfilled life.  It is also the antidote for when we feel lost or blue.  It can take our focus off ourselves and make us pay attention to the world around us. It serves both us and the receivers of our generosity. It is empowering.

Many times people equate giving with cash. If you have the means, then go ahead and share but what if you don’t?  While monetary philanthropy is important, it is a narrow way to be generous.  There are many other ways to share with others.

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Making deals and staying in love

How and Why You Should Negotiate Your Romantic Relationship

Have you ever seen that couple who is still bickering and fighting over the same issues year after year?  They swear they love each other but you keep wondering how they even like each other.  Why haven’t they moved on to bigger, better, and more peaceful things?  Chances are they each are making demands but no one is really negotiating a better way.

The word negotiate is probably the least romantic word in the dictionary.  It doesn’t usually pop up in conversation when you are talking infatuation and love in your life.  Surprisingly, it is the best way to navigate this sort of relationship. Everyone does it to some extent or another.  The better you are at it, the better your relationship becomes. Negotiation is just a means of achieving a solution that leaves each party getting the most out of a situation.

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