We regularly have opportunities in our life that show up unplanned.
The best things in my life came as a surprise to me. My husband, three of my career tracks, some of the friends I have, and some really cool experiences I had never had even thought to want all appeared when I least expected it.
The irony here is that, in general, I don’t like surprises. I like my goals set, and life well planned and documented in my calendar in advance. As most people who have made it to adulthood know, the universe laughed at this! I have been thrown a lot of surprises, both good and bad. The bad helped me find strength and perseverance but the good has brought me so much happiness. Continue reading
Stop waiting for Joy. Stop waiting for Happiness.
Quit saying, “I’ll be happy when…” or “Things will be good if…”
Stop trying to choreograph it with grand gestures.
All of that just wastes so much of our natural happiness resources! Every time we do that kind of thing we are ignoring the very things, moments, events that we could be reveling in now. And that is sad.
Instead of Waiting…
Have you ever seen that couple who is still bickering and fighting over the same issues year after year? They swear they love each other but you keep wondering how they even like each other. Why haven’t they moved on to bigger, better, and more peaceful things? Chances are they each are making demands but no one is really negotiating a better way.
The word negotiate is probably the least romantic word in the dictionary. It doesn’t usually pop up in conversation when you are talking infatuation and love in your life. Surprisingly, it is the best way to navigate this sort of relationship. Everyone does it to some extent or another. The better you are at it, the better your relationship becomes. Negotiation is just a means of achieving a solution that leaves each party getting the most out of a situation.
Have you ever thought long and hard about Happiness, and Joy, and Contentment? How to orchestrate more of it in your life? How to create that big ***BANG*** of Jubilation right over your head?
There is information everywhere…Books, blogs, vlogs, pod casts, talk shows…on how to attempt this. It was in a quiet conversation with a friend that I realized it didn’t come to me in that big way. It came to me in little tiny bits. Sometimes so tiny they might go unnoticed if I wasn’t paying attention. Rarely do I get it from a grand event with lightning strikes or trumpets or fireworks. I am not the only one. Have you ever observed that people who are happy in general delight in small and modest things? Continue reading