“You can be whatever you want to be” say well meaning people everywhere.
“BS!” says me.
Parents tell us this, teachers tell us this, society tells us this, optimists tell us this. All in hopes that we will push ourselves to work hard for what we want, be pioneers, and break glass ceilings. All of those things are very good things. Ingraining this in our brains will help us grow up either with ambition or entitlement. Either way it will slowly dawn on us that this is a lie. Sometimes work and determination just can’t get us there. Continue reading