I did a very scientific poll (facebook, twitter, email, phone calls) and asked people for their definition of success. Most of the answers were different phrasings on one of my favorite quotes and what I use to define success:
“Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it. “- Maya Angelou
Instant gratification is sexier than delayed gratification. It’s decadent, indulgent, and it’s dopamine releasing. That means we get a rush (cue James Brown). Sadly, instant gratification can be a smoke screen and hurdle keeping us from the things we want the most.
Delayed gratification is by far the most reliable road to success. Yet we have become accustomed to fast and easy. We all want the most with the least amount of effort and delayed gratification is none of that.
Let’s face it. Delayed gratification often feels like a sacrifice. Seriously, who doesn’t want to eat that ice cream, buy that bauble, sleep in later, avoid the hard work? Who wants to deny themselves? Who doesn’t want what they want when they want it?
Have you ever heard of a billionaire who built their business when they got ‘around to it’? An epic love story that was ‘fit into a schedule’? A good parent who ignores a child because they have something more interesting to do? How about being able to keep a job when you only go into work fully rested and motivated to work?
Convenience is a great quality when it comes to shopping, banking, doctor appointments, and your commute to work. It is absolutely counter productive as a component in making life decisions. Nothing great is ever created without inconveniencing yourself.Continue reading →